I heard this quote from Derik Sivers in this post https://sivers.org/hellyeah. This is something I have truly followed for a long time, and reading it like this really hit home with me. I found out long ago that if I put my time into things I didn’t want to, I usually zone out onto my own little planet, or complain and bitch or a combination of the two. Mildly put, I’m a pain in the ass to be be around in those situations – on top of that it’s a horrible experience for everyone involved.
I don’t strive to be an asshole, and I would say that I am anything but. However, I’m also very adamant in controlling my calendar, often to the detriment of my own social network. I’m ok with the trade-off.
With that said, the idea is this: Either something is a “Hell yeah” or it’s no. Because if you fill up your calendar with a bunch of “why nots” or “well, alright” – you won’t have time for those few “hell yeah” opportunities that pop up. To be a productive, effective, creative individual, you have to dedicate time, your time. Nobody is going to give you that time to pursue your dreams, in fact, most people most of the time are vampires. They suck the time and life out of you. Well, ok, that’s a bit harsh because by this standard your wife/husband and kids would also be vampires.. which in a way they are. But the trick is to find a balance. Do you want to fill up your calendar with “well, alright” and not have time for you kids?
See, for me, every project, gathering, event or meeting is a direct time thief from my most important priorities – My wife, child, business and hobbies. Every new offer has to be passed through that filter. Am I willing to give up x-hours for x-event at the cost of not seeing my son? I can say not many things pass that filter. My son is smothered by his father 🙂
This is also why a morning routine is so important for me – If I’m up at 5am, I have two hours to myself to build structure and routine for the day. To think about what I need to get done for the day, and clean out my schedule. People often assume I am constantly busy. I’m not, far from it – I own my calendar and I plan accordingly with my priorities always in focus. Saying no is my salvation.
When I do say yes, I am dedicated and follow through the best I possibly can.
That’s it.. just a short post. Enjoy your day and practice saying No!
